Single for the Rest of my Life...

Ok, It has been ages since I have done one of these things and I promise that I will get better. Now lets talk. I have been in the middle of this crazy feud with my friends. What is wrong with being single? Everyone wants a relationship. Why the hell? I am so happy with the freedom of single-dom. I like being able to just go! I have grown up seeing my co-dependent siblings thrive on relationships. Now don't get me wrong relationships are great, but why is it that we use them to validate our being. You are no more less of a man or a woman in a relationship. The same issues that you had with yourself you still have now, you just have someones issues to juggle along with your own. I have so many friends that jump from relationship to relationship failing to see what was wrong in that past relationship. Use that down time to fix you. I always tell my friends that if they are single its for a reason. Use that time to focus on you. Go to Africa, or go base jumping. Experience some stuff, and set the bar higher on what you expect out of people. This ideal includes friends as well. You are what you attract. If you look around and all of your friends are low-lives, then what does that say about you?

I did this exercise last month and I want you to try it out for size. If you get a chance sit down and write down the things that you expect out of that special someone. Don't skimp on this list, remembering this is from the heart and these are the things that you must have or you'll die. (Just a figure of speech). Now if your list has Sleeps around, slaps me around and kicks me in the throat, then BAM, you are the issue. But if you are looking for what we all want and that is simply to be loved, adored, and the object of someones affection then you are on point. Don't deviate from this list. If you are on a date and you are looking for a man or woman with manners and etiquette then if he doesn't open then door for you at dinner, or is she bites her fork when eating. TAKE NOTE!

There was a song by Isyss that came out titled Single for the Rest of My Life, and I was like this is my anthem. I am not basing my ideal on one person like the song depicts. I want to use this down time to get to know me better. Now that I have raised the bar on myself I know exactly what I want. Yeah beggars can't be choosers, but you don't want your standards to just go out the door for the sake of having someone. That old mantra that older women use "It's better to have half a man than no man at all" Umm No! You shouldn't want half of nothing. Elevate your standards and seek within to find the answers. Trust they all there! I hope that you all have a safe holiday and don't do too much poppin! Happy 4th of July!

Keep it Hood,

Bryan-Keyth Wilson
Author of Hood Boy Chronicles
www.bryankeythwilson.com